I personally recommend people who are in serious relationship to move in together prior to getting married. Here are several reasons why.
First, it does save money by splitting the cost of living especially if you live on your own. I have lived together with my husband before we got married. He moved in with me to save the time spent on commuting to work. Since the cohabitation, the burden of paying rent and other necessary bills had been reduced. This allowed me to feel less pinched for money, letting me focused on what I do.
Second, I can disagree with people who consider cohabitation promiscuous. I have seen some people get married due to an unplanned pregnancy even if they had not been living together. This proves that it is a matter of how a couple should pursue their intimacy that would determine marriage to be wanted or unwanted.
Third and lastly, premarital cohabitation could serve a test for marital compatibility as well as a decreased chance of getting divorced. I actually have a friend of mine who rushed to marriage for an unexpected pregnancy, which didn't even give her the chance to get to know how her husband really is. Of course the couple does good job as parents, she often tells me that she still regrets not having had enough time to know about her husband because she feels incompatible with him for not having things in common.
For these reasons, I urge those who view cohabitation unacceptable to be a little tolerant of couples living together. What we should really worry is the growing rate of divorce that would negatively affect the kids left alone from couples' splitting up.
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